How to Find Inner Beauty and Self-Esteem in Yourself
Posted On June 22, 2022
(Last Updated On: June 22, 2022)
How to find beauty in yourself? I had the companionship and pleasure of reading the March edition of Allure magazine during my early ride to Manhattan on the Express Bus. I started by reading Linda Wells’ Letter to the Editor and was struck by this beautiful catchphrase, “pursuit of beauty.” This phenomenon, according to Linda, is similar to the pursuit of the American Dream. This article will share insight on how to find beauty in yourself. Keep reading.
It is “a psychological and physical right to decide and better our core selves…that transcends gender, class, ethnicity, age, and sexual orientation.” “This is very true!” I thought to myself. Who doesn’t want to be and feel beautiful nowadays? There is no question that we as humans are hyperaware of our physical looks and will go to great lengths to improve or preserve our physical attractiveness. Our unquenchable desire for all things “beautiful” demonstrates that we are all pursuing it wholeheartedly.
How to find beauty in yourself
“The characteristic existing in an item or person that brings profound pleasure or deep satisfaction to the mind,” according to dictionary.com. This emotional connection to pleasure explains why beauty is so important in our lives. In the presence of objects or people who appeal to our sensitivities, we can’t help ourselves. Physical attractiveness is influenced by society’s perceptions, even if it is a matter of taste and opinion. The presence of symmetry or balance is a defining factor of beauty in most cultures since it implies the lack of “flaws” or “defects.”
Standardizations of beauty include facial equilibrium, complexion, physical form and size, and youthfulness. The definition of beauty, on the other hand, cannot be fully grasped without also acknowledging that beauty has a metaphysical, rather than a physical, aspect (a more intangible element ). We may not be able to see or feel it, yet its existence is obvious. That stated, psychological elements such as personality, intellect, politeness, elegance, and charm cannot be discounted as deciding factors in judging beauty.
As I dug more into this beauty trend, I came across some fascinating results. Researchers have discovered that physical appearance may have a significant impact on a person’s life, much to my surprise (well, maybe not so much surprise). Someone who is thought to be attractive is more likely to obtain better grades, better medical treatment, shorter jail terms, and more money.
As if the world didn’t already have enough issues, we now know that uncontrollable elements such as our God-given beauty, or “lack thereof,” are simply another societal barrier to add to our list. This form of “lookism” has plagued our society for years, whether we realize it or not, and whether we do so deliberately or subconsciously, and it can give some insight into the amount of shallowness that prevails in our world today.
This terrifying fact has an impact on how we see ourselves and others. The pictures we see on television also influence our perceptions of beauty and are the driving factor behind our quest for perfection. We spend tens of thousands of dollars and countless hours shopping online or in malls for all kinds of beauty products, scheduling nail, hair, facial, and botox appointments, reading fashion magazines, and paying close attention to what our favorite celebrities wear, do, and use to stay slim, youthful, and yes, beautiful.
Let us not forget that there was a time when we were all awestruck by the stunning models and celebrities who easily strolled the red carpets and flanked the covers of publications, or so it appeared. We fantasized about being them and appearing like them, certain that they were born that way. We now not only have the information and knowledge, but also access to the once “top secret” sometimes extreme physical enhancers, thanks to our growing obsession with celebrity life, the shameless and countless invasions of privacy through reality television, social networks, and the “tell-all” craze.
Don’t get me wrong: the “pursuit of beauty” doesn’t have to entail a trip to the plastic surgeon’s office, nor is it a coveted commodity exclusively available to the wealthy. Physical beauty is something that we can all achieve! The multibillion-dollar beauty business has made it a point to meet all of our aesthetic needs by bombarding us with a slew of goods and services aimed at making us feel and look younger and more attractive. In our area, the opportunities and resources accessible to us are limitless.
We have products that make us look younger, products that contribute to making our skin smoother, products that contribute to making our stomachs flat, products that make our lips plumper, products that consider giving us fuller hair, and products that give us longer and thicker lashes, stylists, brow threaders, makeup artists, fashion trends that start changing every season, adornments like earrings, necklaces, tattoos, hats, and so on. We all use these things to enhance our personal beauty and attractiveness in some way.
The fact is, though, that our quest for beauty is about more than merely maximizing our “sexual capital.” We are enamored by more than simply the physical component of beauty. Because they both feed off one other, we’re looking for a blend of the visible and unseen – the physical (outer) and the psychological (inner). Many people, like myself, think that genuine beauty comes from the inside. In my opinion, inner beauty is that irrefutable, profound light that emanates from you and shines forth into the world.
It’s your aura, your spirit, the imprint you leave on people when they first meet you. This ethereal, spiritual aspect of our human nature is referred to by my father as the “inner man” or “woman.” Though some people find this “inner beauty” more easily than others, it is only the first step toward achieving this innate yearning for physical fulfillment or happiness.
If we can discover the psychological strength and confidence to perceive ourselves as attractive no matter what, the rest of the world will have no option but to see us in that light. Any physical flaws that we may believe we have can be removed. Internal beauty is the starting point for the search of beauty. After all, we all know that physical beauty fades with age, and there are other uncontrollable elements that may quickly take away or diminish our physical attractiveness, such as a serious accident or sickness. Inner beauty is derived from a more profound source. It emanates from your heart and spirit and serves as a complement to physical attractiveness.
So, what’s the big deal about wanting to be beautiful? What lurks underlying this ostensibly-pursued goal? What is it that motivates us to strive for near-perfection? The truth is that the search for beauty is essentially the same as the desire for pleasure. Though Linda describes this endeavor as “distinctly American,” it is obviously human to me. We are all looking for this completion, whether it be a bodily or psychological development.
It’s a summons to be someone more and better than we’ve ever been before. It’s about feeling like a beam of sunshine every day as you walk out the door, confident in every stride you take. It’s a goal to reach, a standard to establish, that will reward you with a lifetime of confidence, self-assurance, pride, elegance, poise, and zest for life.
We can’t dispute that we’ve entered a new period in which beauty, and the pursuit of it, is no more a mysterious, confusing phenomenon, but rather a manifestation of one’s pride and self-esteem. Beauty has evolved into a way of life, and we’ve realized that we can only improve physical beauty, not replace it.
Only when the physical (outside beauty) and psychological (inner beauty) function in perfect harmony with each other, like yin and yang, can we securely declare we’ve achieved our goal in the search for beauty and, ultimately, pleasure.
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